I am beginning to see how I purposely distract myself to avoid what needs to be done. I usually do this when I need to prepare for something or really want to accomplish something. I know where it comes from but I’ve always had trouble overcoming it. Distractions make us avoid what is really going on. It keeps us from reaching our potential and provides a full arsenal of excuses:
"I’ve just been really busy lately."
"Yeah, once I’m finished with (insert project) I’ll be able to do it."
"I’m going to do it…I just need to blah blah blah blah blah blah blah first."
Ask yourself why you are distracting yourself. Also ask yourself if it’s in anyway beneficial. Do you really need to be on facebook? Do you really need to be obsessing over a situation that is out of your control? Are you avoiding putting time into a talent in fear of failing? Why are you so distracted and do you have to be? I can answer that one: no, you don’t and the honest truth is that you do it because you are avoiding what really needs to be done. No one forces you to do anything. No one is in charge of your schedule and no one can dictate it. Bring your job up and I’ll challenge you to think about why it is a distraction. What are you doing with your free time outside of work? Why are things not getting done? Why are you investing yourself in something that is not furthering your vision for your life?
We all make excuses and we self soothe ourselves by explaining to everyone why we aren’t doing certain things. To hear someone agree and say they understand is not doing much of a service to you. I would suggest bringing people into your life that will hold you accountable and not support your choice of distracting yourself.
Life is scary. I understand. We all avoid things but doesn’t it get tiring talking about the same things? Doesn’t it get tiring to hope for something but never put in the work to get there? People are always talking about what they want to do but not many put forth the effort. Call yourself out and recognize when you are distracting yourself. It’s for a reason. Force yourself to do what you’ve been putting off. It gets easier each time you decide to overcome it.