You learn the most when you are in the midst of a lot of misfortune. In fact, the most movement happens in these times because you are forced to stop a certain behavior or forced to make a decision.
No one likes being in the midst of problems and nobody likes to admit that they are a mess but when we confront the ugly we find the lesson: if we allow ourselves to.
A lot of times we jump the gun and pull the victim card out. We suffer, suffer, suffer, and suffer some more without stopping to see what can be learned. We suffer mental breakdowns, make tear filled pleas for it all to stop, and soon hit the IDGAF stage where we try to shut ourselves off to everything happening. We numb ourselves and then when another calamity hits we follow the same process. We need to stop, look at the situation, and ask ourselves what we need to learn.
Not sure where I heard it, but I’m reminded of the story where someone asked for patience and was given a day full of long lines and several inconveniences. Sometimes we fail to realize that the things we want to cultivate are given to us in hard situations. How can we learn how to be humble, patient, loving, and courageous if everything goes our way? Tests show up to strengthen us in the areas we need to grow the most. Yet, we fail to realize this and take it as a personal offense. We get angry, throw a temper tantrum, and revert back to our old self.
I’ve been through enough to know that life is a series of tests. The person I was a year ago is thankfully not the person I am now. I changed because of hard situations, self analysis, and finally realizing that I was tired of hitting the same walls. I cycle through the stages of grief with the help of food and plenty of bathroom cries until I realize that I’m not really making progress. I’m just sitting in these negative feelings for way too long and not seeing the bigger picture.
Pain is temporary. Everything is temporary. We can’t be in the same situation forever. That to me is reassuring. Humans are survivors. We adapt and we move forward. We can either see each challenge as another weight to place on our shoulders or a gift to bring us to a higher level of understanding in our life.